Transistions

This blog was suggested by a friend. I don’t give out names, but you know who you are. Hopefully this will show the rest of you that you can suggest and i will try and do.

I think that when you decide to move from one country to another, this needs to be with eyes wide open. Many factors need to be and must be thought about. If you try to do it on a whim then you stand a good chance to landing on your back end covered in all sorts of muck.

When i first considered moving here to Thailand i considered what i believed it would all entail. I cant say i was wrong but there were a couple of things that i had underestimated, but nothing too much.

When i first visited Thailand, i made a point of trying to experience things from a Thais point of view rather than the more blinkered tourist version of day to day life. Yes i did some tourist things, but not as much and this gave me a different look on things and i think that helped me for sure. No rose tinted spectacles for me. Haha.

Watching Thais and Buddhists going about their daily lives showed me a vastly different way of life from what i was used to in the UK. Different in a bad way? No not really but it did make me think more about what i was doing in life. I am not sure if others saw a difference in me but i sure felt it.

One thing my now wife taught me on the first visit was this. Dont worry about the past as you can not change it. Dont worry about the future as i might never happen. Deal with the here and now as that is the only thing you can have direct effect upon. From then i tried to implement this as best i could.

When i first moved here it was like my life changed big time. Although married and with a young child, while i was waiting for a visa and other things in the UK it was almost like i was still single, but when i moved i was like suddenly married and had a family, took some getting used to, but with looking after Lin and because of the flooding problems this had to be a quick change of mind set. More on the flooding in another blog.

Medical care. As such no GP like in the UK. Instead you go to the Pharmacy first. They can even prescribe mild antibiotics i have used this way several times and even have a local one where they speak very good English.

If they can help you then its off to the hospital. 2 types government or private. Big difference for the UK readers is you have to pay for everything. Doctors time nurses time, x-rays everything. Big difference for the good was when i had an ankle problem, i did not see a GP, but someone who deals with that area of the body. You get there take a deli counter number and wait your turn. Naturally the private hospitals you wait less, but pay more.

With my wife being a nurse we as a family get staff discount as we would call it but welfare as they call it.

I have found that before any consultation, be it doctor or dentist they will weigh you and take your blood pressure. Not a good thing for me as i get white coat syndrome, but no choice, without it they wont even talk to you.

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Something i was not prepared for was other non Thais. Cant just call them expats as they come from all over the place. So i would see one in the street or Tesco or where ever and say hi or something along those lines and i would get a glare alont the lines of where the F did you come from and F off back there. This shocked me a lot. I have in time been able to narrow this down to it being ex-pat Brits and Yanks. Basically they wont even say hello. Dont worry i don’t want to have you babies i just want to say hello and maybe a short chat. The strange part is that people from countries that don’t normally like us Brits, French, Germans, Aussies and so on are actually by far the most friendly and do stop and talk. I saw a pair of Aussies and they asked where i was from so naturally i told them. I got the “not a bloody Pome” abut after that we had a good old chat.

In the last couple of years i have been talking to and getting to know South Africans. Normally as our school claims them to be natural born English speakers, but who cares.

What i find strange about the one that don’t talk is that you would think as we are all in the same boat so to speak that having someone to talk to would be nice especially while waiting for your kids to finish at school. Seems that i am a fool to think that way. Oh and this happens at immigration too.

Because of this i find it hard not having friends here to chat with and with the wife working leaving me with just the kids to talk to, it can get very lonely at times. Even when talking with Thais that speak English, you find you have to think more to word things in a way that you hope they will understand. No slang or lazy English so even that is not the same as seeing you friend in the street and asking if they saw this or that on TV the night before. So that is very hard.

Ok i am going to leave that there for now, but if you want more, or have questions please do feel free to ask. I don’t bite, well at least not on a first date haha

So until the next one. Be good and if you cant be good i want to know why, especially if its interesting J

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2 thoughts on “Transistions

  1. Ivor. I visited Thailand last December. I am American, so not talking to fellow tourists didn’t bother me. I’m conditioned, it’s not that I don’t want to. Americans, and many other westerners, have this thing engrained since childhood: don’t talk to strangers. There’s a covert class system. It’s most noticeable at public gatherings. I call it the: “Are you worth talking to?” Syndrome. The question is answered by a series of pre-approving questions like: ” Where are you from?” – to determine educational/economic worthiness.Then: “What do you do?” This is the clincher. If you don’t meet the standard than you’re patronized until you walk away or they do. Simple. So, for people who don’t want to go through that, the number of which is becoming increasingly greater, it’s better not to try.

    Howard

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    1. Hi Howard, thank you for your comment. i find it strange that i only find that British and Americans dont want to know, but its ok, each to their own and all that. Thank you for taking the time to read the blog and i hope you will read some more too. Have a good day and thank you again

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